Masturbation is a wonderful and natural form of expressing sexuality. It’s a way to explore what feels good, express who you are and learn to better enjoy your own body. It can reduce stress, help you feel close to yourself, and bring pleasure. And it’s important to remember that it’s a perfectly normal and healthy form of self-love, so let’s talk about male masturbation methods sans any sex toys or anal play.
I remember my first time when I was just figuring out what my body looked and felt like. It’s completely normal to be a little hesitant at first and I was no exception. I eventually realized that there was nothing to be worried or embarrassed about, so I just allowed myself to take my time to explore and discover what kind of stimulus felt best. I started by just lightly running my hands over my body, paying special attention to areas that seemed to draw me in. I found that the longer I just lingered there, the better it felt so I just enjoyed that process as much as I could.
Using just my hands, I got to know my body. I learned where I liked to be touched, how I reacted to different rhythms and caresses, and even found a few secret erogenous zones. It was, and still is, such an incredible feeling to explore and learn about yourself on the deepest level. I could move my hands around in just the right way to bring a much more intense sensation and gradually build up to an amazing climax.
From there, I took my journey to new directions. I discovered different techniques to take masturbation to the next level. I experimented with pressure, rhythm and speed—finding out what I preferred and what felt good to me in different moments. It was a personal journey that allowed me to be creative and really helped me understand the nuances of pleasure.
One of my favorite methods is something I like to call “The Wave.” Basically, I start with light circular movements around the area until I get comfortable enough to increase pressure and speed—almost like waves of pleasure. Then, I’ll start to focus on the one area that really does it for me and increase the intensity until it’s just perfect. This technique always keeps me guessing and never gets boring.
Another fantastic approach is something I’ve learned from my friends—stimulating the frenulum, which is the sensitive spot under the foreskin of the penis. For this, I use two fingers applying light pressure and pressing together the skin in a rotating motion. I’ve found this to be real trigger for an intense climax and it always leaves me feeling energized and ecstatic.
Now, when I want to change it up, I’ll do something called “The Rollercoaster,” where I alternate between the Wave and the Frenulum stimulation—slowly increasing speed and pressure as I go. I really like to take my time with this one and enjoy the rise and fall of pleasure I get from the two different techniques.
It’s been an enlightening journey full of exciting discoveries. Exploring and experimenting with different techniques can be truly rewarding. By taking the time to explore our bodies, I think we all have the potential to find new and amazing things about ourselves.
Whether it’s pulling down with a light touch toward the base of your shaft, or simply running your hands over your thighs in a circular motion, I always find new and interesting sensations when I take my time and allow myself to be part of the experience. This single-handed exploration has been such a personal and empowering experience that helps me understand myself and my pleasure far more deeply.
The often missing step in getting comfortable with self-pleasure is simply allowing yourself to take it slow and enjoy the process—we have the time, we might as well use it. That’s why I prefer to take my time, savoring each movement and discovering all the little nuances that lead to such an amazing experience.
Sometimes I’ll mix it up and use a dab of lubricant on my fingers, or switch it up and pinch/pull in different ways. It’s all about experimenting—building up the intensity and then having that final intense moment. I always find the result worthwhile and worth the effort.
Other than that, I try to use different kinds of mindfulness while pleasuring myself. It’s really easy to just “go through the motions”—I like to focus on the moment, be aware of my body and thoughts, and take the pleasure in without judgement. It’s an incredible and fulfilling way to get the most out of my experience.
I’ve grown so much since I discovered masturbating without any toys or anal play—it’s been an incredible journey, honestly. Even though I no longer need sex toys or lube to provide pleasure, I still use them from time to time for extra stimulation. But no matter what, I always make sure to have an enjoyable and mindful experience—that’s what matters the most.
I’m continually exploring and learning new things about the way I like to be touched, the way I have to touch myself and the different techniques that help amplify the pleasure—from light and slow caresses to fast, intense pressure. I also like to mix it up by using fingers on one hand, and another hand to provide extra stimulation.
Apart from all these techniques, I also believe in the value of self-love as an important part of masturbation. Each time I focus on some self-love during masturbation, I always get more connected to my body—taking the time to just get to know it better and appreciate it.
Masturbation can be a great way to get to know yourself better, explore and discover, and ultimately, it’s really a chance to honour and celebrate the little moments of pleasure. I can take as much or as little time as I want and I really get to be the one who decides how it all plays out.
I believe that it’s really important to remember the value of pleasure and self-love. Self-exploration can be incredibly fulfilling and eye-opening, and it can often help you understand more about what kind of stimulation you often need in a partnered experience. So, really, it’s all up to you—explore, learn and enjoy!