Hey there,
I know this topic might be a bit taboo but I wanted to talk to you about whether gay men should use a vibrator or dildo. Before I start, I want to make it clear that this is not a judgement – if you choose to use these toys, that’s perfectly normal and healthy. I’m more curious about the practicalities of using a vibrator or dildo in the bedroom.
I’ll start by saying that, personally, I’m a massive advocate of both. Using toys can create some really exciting bedroom experiences and often provide a more intense sexual pleasure than just hands or body alone. And don’t just take my word for it – in the same way that straight couples sometimes find using toys to be a great addition to their sexual experience, the same is true for gay couples.
Now, if you’ve never tried one before, it can be a daunting prospect – thankfully, there is a huge range of sex toys on the market explicitly for gay couples. You could even say it’s kind of like a buffet – there are some for external stimulation and some for penetrative pleasure. Vibrators tend to be used externally and on the body, whereas dildos are designed to simulate penetrative sex, although vibration can be added.
From a practical standpoint, it’s really important to consider safety. Toys that are designed for internal stimulation should be made from body-safe materials, and you should always use the best quality lubricant you can get. It’s also important to research and practice proper hygiene before, during, and after using a sex toy.
Now, a key consideration for many gay men is whether their partner will be comfortable with them using a sex toy. It’s important to discuss with your partner before using one and make sure they’re comfortable with the idea – communication is key for any kind of bedroom fun.
In conclusion, I’d urge gay men not to be afraid of experimenting in the bedroom. Using a vibrator or dildo can be a truly special and enjoyable experience that can be shared with a partner too. Whether you’re considering using a toy for the first time or simply need a refresher, talking to your partner, researching, and using the right products are essential – and, most importantly, sex toys enjoy!